Are you struggling with communication? Do you get frustrated when it feels like your partner and you aren’t on the same page? This might mean that you are believing a communication myth that will only end in more frustration in your relationship.
Have you ever thought: “If my partner really loved me and cared about me, he/she would instinctively know how I feel, and what I want and need to be happy in our relationship”?
This is called the “mind-reading myth”. Some people expect a partner to just know what they want and need without having to say anything. When their needs aren’t met, they start feeling resentful and unfulfilled. It is a romantic thought that love will telepathically communicate for you, but in reality, it doesn’t.
People must specifically communicate their wants, needs, and expectations to others in order to potentially get those needs met. This includes communicating how they feel about issues that come up in the relationship. If this is something you have never done, it can be scary and awkward, and it takes a lot of practice.
The rewards, however, can open up a whole new avenue of intimacy in the relationship that deepens the connection. Speaking your needs is much more satisfying than sitting around and hoping that someone will eventually realize or guess what you need!
Stop waiting and start speaking your needs!