Trust is a vital part of marriage. It can be shattered by broken promises, addictions, or infidelity. Unfortunately, as a therapist, I’ve had a lot of experience helping couples rebuild trust in my therapy practice. At one point, around 75% of my clients were working on affair recovery issues.
The world around us seeks to live in the moment and have instant gratification, but many don’t see the ripple effect of their actions and how they can demolish trust. Relationships are hard; we have to understand that when we love we are opening ourselves up to the risk of pain. Marriage can bring some of the greatest highs and lowest lows. It isn’t always a “happily ever after” story.
Here are 6 ways to work on building trust in your marriage:
1. Do what you say you’re going to do.
It sounds simple, right? If you say you are going to take out the trash, do it. If you are meeting someone at a specific time, show up at that time. If you tell your spouse you are going to change, show them evidence of your change. Keeping your promises and commitments will tell your spouse that you are trustworthy.