It’s Christmas time again and finding the perfect gift is on everyone’s mind. This year, try giving a gift that says I love you to your friends and family.

Ever heard of the 5 love languages by Gary Chapman? This book helps people understand that we have different ways of feeling loved. The 5 main love languages people fall into are: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, and Physical touch. It’s not limited to adults- kids have a love language too. Knowing the love language of the ones you love is a great way to make sure the love you have for them is being communicated and received.

Here’s a short video from Chapman’s website that gives you a picture of the 5 love languages being acted out.


Do you know the love language of your spouse, children, or friends? If so, you may want to give them a gift that says I love you that matches with their love language. As you will see, many of these don’t require money or wrapping!

Here are some ideas of gifts that say I love you:

Words of Affirmation

If someone you love has the love language of words of affirmation, here are some ideas:

  • Write a card saying all the things you’ve loved about the year with them
  • Write a poem for them and frame it
  • If you’re creative, write a song and sing it on Christmas morning.
  • Be sure to say thank you for all the ways he/she made the day special

Acts of Service

If your loved one’s love language is acts of service, you may want to try one of these:

  • Do a chore all day on Christmas that he or she would usually do. Cook a meal, do the dishes, make the bed, pick up all the wrapping paper trash, etc.
  • Give a coupon book with things you will do for them

Quality Time

This one has a variety of easy ideas you can do:

  • Buy him/her a movie and spend time watching it
  • Get a game everyone can play
  • Take a walk or drive around together through the neighborhood to look at Christmas lights
  • Put a date package together. Get a gift card or two and write a note asking if you can go on a date together.

Receiving Gifts

Well this one might seem easy this time of year. But one thing to keep in mind is that you find a gift that shows you know your loved one. Your gift should reflect that you are listening, watching and you were thinking of them when you bought it. A random gift doesn’t mean the same. Think of something that could make their life easier. Think of one of his/her favorites. What is something they would never buy for themselves, but they have always wanted? These are good places to start when it comes to someone with a love language of receiving gifts.

Physical Touch

If your loved one has a primary love language of physical touch, be sure to do these things:

  • Sit by each other on the couch. Touching when you are near is a good thing!
  • If there is snow, go outside together and play. Be sure to tackle each other too!
  • Give a foot rub or back massage
  • Cuddle on the couch

There are endless ideas, but hopefully these will get you brainstorming to give gifts that match with your loved one’s love language this Christmas. Happy shopping!