I work with many shapeshifters. Ok that may seem like a strange statement. Let me clarify…. They change who they are and what they believe based on who they are around. Kind of like a chameleon who changes color depending on his environment.

In one environment, they engage in certain behaviors and likes and dislikes. But when they aren’t around those people, they are completely different. It’s a choice they make as part of being codependent.

People do this around you all the time. They may put on an act for peers, family members, at a job, and even at church.

What makes a shapeshifter unhealthy?

A shapeshifter struggles to be real. They lack a strong sense of self and deeply desire to fit in and feel accepted. This drives them to morph into who they believe others want them to be. They will change just to fit the mold.
Relationships with this type of person are unhealthy for both people. The shapeshifter never gets a voice or discovers who they are and often gets taken advantage of.  The other person never gets to know the real person behind the mask. There is no depth, vulnerability, or authenticity. There is just a false, empty shell.

What if you are a shapeshifter?

If this sounds like you, it is time to make a change. It is time to discover who are truly are. You have an identity inside that shell that needs permission to be discovered. It is time to stop pleasing others and living a life for them. It is time to know the purpose God has for you as His child and live it fully.

If you are a shapeshifter, there is hope as you start your journey towards an authentic you.

Galatians 1:10 For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.