We ask the question often, “Where do you see yourself in five years?” We dream about the future. We plan for retirement. We play the “if only” game and wish the grass was greener. Do you focus so much on the future destination that you forget to just be in the moment?
When my kids asks to do something that is beyond their age, and I say no, they reply with a sighing, “Someday.”
In high school I was in the musical “Annie” and sang the lyrics, “Tomorrow. Tomorrow. I love you tomorrow. You’re only a day away.”
All of these are examples of destination addiction. This is when people focus so strongly on the future that they miss out on TODAY. When we get lost in our vision and dreams, we tend to forget to be in the moment of reality right before our eyes.
Ways to be in the moment while taking steps toward your future:
Reduce your tech time
One of the best innovations of our time is the access that we have to knowing things, connecting with people easily, and entertaining ourselves at any moment. The problem with technology is that it always gives us something to do. This can prevent us from taking in a moment. We get sucked in to the emails, status updates, pictures, etc. that we don’t pay attention to what is right in front of us. Set some limits with yourself about tech time in order to free up some brain space to be in the moment.
Focus on one thing at a time
The older I get, the more I feel ADD! There is so much white noise in my brain that I have trouble focusing well on one thing.This is evidence of me having TOO MANY things to focus on. Clearing things off my plate so I can focus on one thing at a time helps me be in the moment. This of course takes setting boundaries with myself, others, and my time.
Connect the dots
The steps I am taking right now are helping me get to the future. Sometimes I forget to look down in the moment at the importance of the steps I’m taking now that lead me to where I want to go. When I look so much at the final destination, I forget to embrace the step I’m taking right now. Seeing the value of the current step your taking helps you connect the dots to how it can lead you to the future. This gives you a more “be in the moment” attitude because this moment is part of the path to get you to your future.
Stop worrying about the future
Planning for the future is a wise thing to do, but worrying about the future is not. When we worry about the future, we often create catastrophic scenarios that play out in our minds. They spiral into a variety of “what if’s”. Making a plan is a good thing, but it’s also important to be open to being flexible to how God may change the plan. Trusting Him and His guidance is a healthy alternative.
Be a sponge
Amazing smells. Gorgeous sights. Beautiful noises. Tender touches, Delicious tastes. When we are in the moment, we can experience the wonder of our 5 senses. So often people are distracted by all the craziness of life that we forget to absorb all the we GET to experience around us. Being in the moment offers you the chance to take in all the moment has to offer. You may never get a moment just like this one again.
I am not saying we shouldn’t dream. We just need to be careful to not loose sight of the life we have right now. Enjoy today…Live today. Don’t get addicted to your destination. You might miss out on something beautiful right now!
What are some things you do to “just be”?