by Teri Claassen | Jul 1, 2020 | Perfectionism
We live in a world that examines things, food, our purchases and people with a microscope. We evaluate what is right or wrong, good or bad, better or best, etc. This thinking causes us to play a constant comparison game as we look at every element of the world around...
by Teri Claassen | Jun 24, 2020 | Marriage
As my wedding anniversary is right around the corner, I use this time to focus on measuring growth in my marriage. I thought it’d be good to write about specific lessons I’ve learned in my marriage as my post for this week. Nineteen years as a married...
by Teri Claassen | Jun 18, 2020 | Emotions
We are all growing. Everyone should be able to look back and see a place from the past that looks different now. I work with a lot clients who struggle with this when it comes to emotional growth. This is usually because they have trouble measuring it. We can see...
by Teri Claassen | Jun 10, 2020 | Communication
As a therapist, I hear a lot of dysfunctional phrases when people communicate. Many people say things without thinking about the message they’re sending. Some will blurt phrases out of their mouths without any awareness of how it could be taken. This leads to...
by Teri Claassen | Jun 3, 2020 | Relationships
Do you have any love busters in your relationship? William Harley is an author that created and discusses the Love buster concept. A love buster is something that is done in the relationship that breaks down the feeling of love between you and your loved one. It can...
by Teri Claassen | May 27, 2020 | Faith
The Serenity Prayer is commonly linked to 12 step programs and is used by many as a coping tool. It says: “God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Amen.” When we truly...
by Teri Claassen | May 20, 2020 | Conflict
Every relationship has conflict. Many people think it’s a bad thing or a sign of the relationship going down hill. The truth is that it’s normal and can actually be a way to know each other better if it’s done in a healthy way. Have you ever thought...
by Teri Claassen | May 13, 2020 | Anxiety
Don’t new beginnings feel good? Having a clean slate that you get to create from scratch as a new chapter begins can be energizing. Some might find it intimidating and uncomfortable, but I find it freeing. I had lived my whole life in Ohio and Indiana until...
by Teri Claassen | May 6, 2020 | Marriage
Do you know the 4 T’s that are important for a healthy marriage? Doing these consistently requires discipline and intentionally, and it will be a good foundation for a healthy marriage. We all want to have happy and fulfilling relationships, but there’s so...
by Teri Claassen | Apr 29, 2020 | Abuse
Do you know the devastating impacts of gaslighting in relationships? Gaslighting is a term used in the psychology world that refers to a person who manipulates someone causing them to question what is real. It is commonly done in emotionally abusive relationships....
