What you win in the comparison game

What you win in the comparison game

We live in a world that examines things, food, our purchases and people with a microscope. We evaluate what is right or wrong, good or bad, better or best, etc. This thinking causes us to play a constant comparison game as we look at every element of the world around...
Measuring growth in my marriage

Measuring growth in my marriage

As my wedding anniversary is right around the corner, I use this time to focus on measuring growth in my marriage. I thought it’d be good to write about specific lessons I’ve learned in my marriage as my post for this week. Nineteen years as a married...
Do you see emotional growth?

Do you see emotional growth?

We are all growing. Everyone should be able to look back and see a place from the past that looks different now. I work with a lot clients who struggle with this when it comes to emotional growth. This is usually because they have trouble measuring it. We can see...
4 Dysfunctional phrases to stop saying

4 Dysfunctional phrases to stop saying

As a therapist, I hear a lot of dysfunctional phrases when people communicate. Many people say things without thinking about the message they’re sending. Some will blurt phrases out of their mouths without any awareness of how it could be taken. This leads to...
The Serenity Prayer broken down

The Serenity Prayer broken down

The Serenity Prayer is commonly linked to 12 step programs and is used by many as a coping tool. It says: “God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Amen.” When we truly...
Use conflict as a way to get to know each other

Use conflict as a way to get to know each other

Every relationship has conflict. Many people think it’s a bad thing or a sign of the relationship going down hill. The truth is that it’s normal and can actually be a way to know each other better if it’s done in a healthy way. Have you ever thought...
New Beginnings

New Beginnings

Don’t new beginnings feel good? Having a clean slate that you get to create from scratch as a new chapter begins can be energizing. Some might find it intimidating and uncomfortable, but I find it freeing. I had lived my whole life in Ohio and Indiana until...
4 T’s that are important for a healthy marriage

4 T’s that are important for a healthy marriage

Do you know the 4 T’s that are important for a healthy marriage? Doing these consistently requires discipline and intentionally, and it will be a good foundation for a healthy marriage. We all want to have happy and fulfilling relationships, but there’s so...
Devastating impacts of gaslighting in relationships

Devastating impacts of gaslighting in relationships

Do you know the devastating impacts of gaslighting in relationships? Gaslighting is a term used in the psychology world that refers to a person who manipulates someone causing them to question what is real. It is commonly done in emotionally abusive relationships....