Managing triggers after a betrayal

Managing triggers after a betrayal

Have you betrayed the trust of your loved one? Has it been hard managing their triggers after a betrayal? I’ve worked with many couples who’ve experienced betrayal in their relationships. Affairs. Emotional affairs. Lying. Not following through. Broken...
Are your coping skills healthy?

Are your coping skills healthy?

We can’t control that life will throw us a curve ball when we least expect it. But we do have a choice in our reactions to it and if we chose healthy or unhealthy coping skills. Healthy coping skills will help carry you through, build you up, and re-focus you...
Do you have a fear of someone loving you?

Do you have a fear of someone loving you?

So many of my clients hide their pain and lack vulnerability and authenticity with others. It’s like they have a fear of someone loving them. Do you have a fear of someone loving you? ¬†Are you secretly aching inside and pretend you have it all put together? Do...
What does it mean to have abandonment issues?

What does it mean to have abandonment issues?

Have you heard someone say they suffer from abandonment issues? What does it mean to have abandonment issues? Most people think about adoption or being left on a door step as a child, but abandonment issues can be caused by many more life experiences than those....
What you win in the comparison game

What you win in the comparison game

We live in a world that examines things, food, our purchases and people with a microscope. We evaluate what is right or wrong, good or bad, better or best, etc. This thinking causes us to play a constant comparison game as we look at every element of the world around...
Measuring growth in my marriage

Measuring growth in my marriage

As my wedding anniversary is right around the corner, I use this time to focus on measuring growth in my marriage. I thought it’d be good to write about specific lessons I’ve learned in my marriage as my post for this week. Nineteen years as a married...
Do you see emotional growth?

Do you see emotional growth?

We are all growing. Everyone should be able to look back and see a place from the past that looks different now. I work with a lot clients who struggle with this when it comes to emotional growth. This is usually because they have trouble measuring it. We can see...
4 Dysfunctional phrases to stop saying

4 Dysfunctional phrases to stop saying

As a therapist, I hear a lot of dysfunctional phrases when people communicate. Many people say things without thinking about the message they’re sending. Some will blurt phrases out of their mouths without any awareness of how it could be taken. This leads to...